Self Respect

[London Lothario]

I am slowly finding my soul and my self respect. For years sub consciencly I have been an approval seeker and a needy outcome depenent guy. I am not saying that side of me has gone compleatly but it is slowly going, thank god and I am becoming more centred and rounded individual. Last Friday one girl who I lusted over for a long time because of her statuesque figure (I normally have a thing for tall voluptous women) made me relise only lust in ones pursuit of women is cheap. She had nothing to offer me and this begs the question should one pursue a woman when there is nothing but lust and she not even responsive or open towards you?

[Nick LoCicero]

Congrats man, finding who you are and what makes you you is one of the best things you can do!

What do you think? If I see a hott girl, should I go over and flirt with her and see what happens? I know I would.

Originally Posted by London Lothario

She had nothing to offer me and this begs the question should one pursue a woman when there is nothing but lust and she not even responsive or open towards you?

You should see what happens. No one is here to judge you. Being turned on by a woman is a good thing. I wouldn't say pursue her. You're getting ahead of yourself there and yes, it would be unwise to pursue a relationship for purely lustful purposes. You're correct that there is nothing being offered for you other than sex. Relationships take a lot more than that. But how long have you known this girl? Why not go up and flirt with her? Have a little fun! Risk a little bit. I think you'd like that ...

[London Lothario]

Originally Posted by happybirthday

Congrats man, finding who you are and what makes you you is one of the best things you can do!

What do you think? If I see a hott girl, should I go over and flirt with her and see what happens? I know I would.

Check out her vibe before see her body language at worst open her if you are not feeling a vibe or she thinks she something special eject get the hell out of there forget about sex, think of your integrity.

I am surely no expert believe but the worst thing is to waste time on unworthy people not just women in this unpredictable lifetime. One thing PUA Adam Lyons said which I agree with is dont waste time on a bad sets. Robert Green also advocates in his famous Art of Seduction book chose your victims(which is a crude term for women I prefer friends or lady friends) well and that attraction for your lady friend should not be a purely superfacial.


Oh I would not even look to seduce the girl now let alone look at relationship material which is way too premature what does she have to offer me?

I asked the question highlight that looking at women and just seeing sex especially when there is nothing there is dangerous it could spoil your pursuit of women who has alot to offer but all you could see or think about when it comes to them is sex not the person, it could make you waste your time on tramps who have nothing to offer you and I mean nothing but you are needy over sex.

[Azztech]

Self Respect?

I have just the thing!!!

In December, when I was a PUA, I was often really depressed and had terrible social anxieties.

I got a book, 7.99 from Nathaniel Branden, supplied me with ALL the "inner game" I'd ever needed!
The things Hypnotica tries to instill in people with CoC, you get automatically from that book.

It's called How to Raise Your Self Esteem, but it's not what you think, it's about self efficacy, a feeling, or the experience of being effective and appropriate towards life.

I've met a few people who would not be able to look me in the eye and say "I've a right to exist" and convince me.
Nor could I!

It's life changing! I wouldn't be here today without it!
Or anywhere:P

You also said "vibe" have you ever studied or thought of "energies"?

[London Lothario]

Azztech your post is really inspirational this book most be really good. I have been battling with self worth for all my life. I am slowly becoming more centred and gaining control. I have been lacking motivation of a fear failure but I feel things are getting better for me. For everyone who reads this post inner game is the mecca of being successfull with women my issues have prevented me from having fufilling relationships not social tactics or techniques but my spirit and soul if I get this restored I will be more fufilled.