Join Date: May 2008
Dating for older dudes
I'm 50 and have been dating for the past couple of years(mostly online).I've enjoyed the advice and outlook here.Online dating has usually been a roller coaster ride for me.At times ...diddly squat.And then like this past week I'm seeing like 3 or 4 different women.Pretty much all the women I have seen are in their 40's.I have a couple of questions.
1. When you first meet a girl that you think you may want to see again what are some ways to let them know that you see other women?Just be forthright? I assume you always let them know about dating others before having safe sex with them.I continue to struggle with how to let them know I see others.Any suggestions would be appreciated.
2.How many of you guys use the Brent/ disinterested approach? I just read the 'how to be the jerk women love' and I can really understand why that would work but it seems like it could be difficult to put into practice when one is not born with the 'jerk' mentality. I would like to be able to do this more as I am pretty sure I have fucked up possible connections with women in the past by being a little too available.Its hard to pretend to not be available especially when you get lonely.Its seems to be feast or famine for me anyway.I realize online dating is no doubt a whole different ballgame.Do you know many 50 year old guys that do well in clubs? Thanks for any help here.
Join Date: Apr 2008
Location: I go where I please!
Words mean nothing....here are a few. :)
Especially on dating sites its already expected that you see other women. its really not needed to say anything. Also, women get the 'impression' of exclusivity via your actions. In other words, the more frequent your phone calls and .... encounters ( ) .... the stronger the idea of being exclusive builds. If you only see them once every couple weeks i see no real need for it.
As for 50 yr. old men in clubs search your local scene. Go online and take a look at the menus of the clubs around. A more upscale menu (featuring a range of martinis or pricey wine) will let you know what crowd to expect and if you will seem out of place.
Join Date: Nov 2007
Location: Knoxville TN
Certainly don't go to the younger dance clubs, you'll look like a horny old man trying to score, which is fine if your Tom jones. There are more appropriate clubs for us seasoned vets, you just have to go out and explore.
As for letting them know that your dating other women, just tell them (I'm dating other women) Most women won't think twice about this. However if you start developing a relationship with one, she'll start getting concerned about this and will eventually lay ,it's me or them ultimatum on you. at which point you say ok honey, and hand over your penis, or you stand your ground and do what you really want. If you want to hand over your penis, then just let it be your choice, not hers...
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