Honesty & Respect in Open Relationships - Questions

[Dragon]

Me and my wife are in the process of 'opening up'. I've done a fair amount of research on the subject (read books etc), but I am curious how any of you other pirates in open relationships handle this particular bit.

When you have a primary partner, how do you, smoothly and early on, communicate to another woman (whether you are just casually flirting or intending to take things further than that) that they, if they choose to be involved with you, will be a 'secondary' partner. And also that you're not Joe Schmoe cheating on your wife/girlfriend, that your partner is not a dull person and/or boring in bed and that that's not the reason you're flirting with someone else, but that you're actually in a consensual open relationship.

My wife is my Goddess and I am concerned about giving the impression to another woman through my words and actions that I do not love/respect my wife, or that they will think they could steal me away from her. She too is concerned that other women will think of her as some asexual housewife/mother-of-two who does not "fulfill her husbands needs".

This is in particular a concern when relating to someone who already knows I'm married, but not that my wife and I would have an open relationship.

I know this is not really rocket science, as it would not be that difficult to simply spell it out, but what I find hard to figure out and verbalize is how to integrate this message smoothly and naturally into the interaction, very early on, without it taking away from the magic and beauty of the seduction process (as would a long speech and/or starting to outline 'terms' etc).

Any input is appreciated!